Connect vs. perfect: Bonding with those younger
Some say staying connected with younger people can make us feel young at heart. But, do you sometimes find that difficult when the other person is wearing facial tattoos, sporting a bull ring in their nose, or has poor grammar?
The role of a grandparent or great aunt can be very fulfilling; however, these relationships don’t come easily. Along with differing opinions and styles, busy schedules and long distances can separate us. It takes time and persistence – not perfection – to nourish these key connections.
Don’t throw an important bond away because you prefer to be right. Instead, simply be open and available to the younger people in your life. Accept them for their unique qualities, and “be the positive” in their life. Here’s how …
Send them encouraging texts. These can be as brief as, “Hey, I’m thinking of you today. Hugs!”
Freely and genuinely compliment their efforts, including small wins.
Send a card or digital message for their birthday and other special days, like Valentine’s Day, so they know they’re loved.
Deliver a surprise package filled with homebaked goods or their favorite snacks.
Meet them for lunch at a place they choose, and talk about whatever is on their mind.
Share a photo of the two of you that holds special meaning, such as the day they were born, and share uplifting stories from the past about them.
Finally, allow these connections to grow organically instead of forcing them, like insisting they meet with you every week at a certain time (unless they request it). The more you listen and simply show love, the deeper these relationships most likely will grow.